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WHO AM I?

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I recently presented a workshop for a local school and we had two sessions one focussing on “The Privilege and Power of being an Educator” the other on ‘What is my Story & covering the essential issue of Who am I?”

I wish to share some thoughts on the second one in particular as it resonated with so many of the staff at the workshop.

Who am I? is such a essential question  for everyone and especially the teenage boy and girl, as they strive to identify their authentic selves, as well as  acceptance by a group as part of a ‘brotherhood’ that exists within boys’ schools in particular. Ideally,  a place in the school ecosystem where they feel safe.

I share the following poem with you:

As an educator please consider the following thoughts:

  • The poem is about the real answer to “Who Am I?” Most of us think identity is our name, our job, our face in the mirror. This poem says – no. Your identity is what you leave behind in other people and in the world.
  • Furthermore,  it is about who he is and how he affects the world. Jimmy Osborne is answering the question “Who Am I?” by saying: I am not just my body. I am my impact on others which is what we do on a daily basis
  • You are more than just yourself. Your real identity lives on in the people you touch, the love you give, and the small marks you leave behind.
  • Do not measure me by my achievements. Measure me by the hearts that I have touched and the footprint I leave where people can find me after I am gone. This so pertinent many years after we have left an institution from both the pupil and educators’ perspective. The quote “ Your pupils will forget the theorems , the history lessons but they will never forget how you made them feel ‘ [UNKNOWN ].
  • Your identity is what you leave behind in other people and in the world.
  • You are more than just YOU.

I am more than merely me’

  • You are the hearts you touch, the air you breathe, the thoughts you think, the things you see. You are bigger than your body.
  • You live in others.

You can find me in the ones I love

  • People will find you not in a photo, but in a goodnight kiss, a hug, how you treated a stranger, how you made them feel. In small, soft moments – ‘ in butterflies and lightning bugs’
  • You are both joy and pain.

From the smiles I give, to the tears I cry

  • It is honest. Identity is not just the happy Instagram version. It is the laughter, sighs and the tears. It is being human and authentic.

“I ask that you remember me, As a memory inside your mind’

  • The final message is very simple and humble. When we reach the afterlife, we do not need fame. We just hope someone, somewhere, still holds us gently in their mind.

In closing, an authentic identity is not what you own or what you look like – it is the invisible footprint of love and kindness you leave on others.

Why This Matters Today?

We live in an age where identity is often reduced to what we own, what we wear, and how we look online. This poem reminds us of a deeper truth. Your possessions will fade. Your looks will change. But the invisible footprint of love and kindness you leave on others — that remains. True identity is not built. It is given away.

Thank you for what you do for your staff and learners on a daily basis and continue being you!

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